This doesn't mean that past events are not talked about later on. Friday morning, I went in before school to have a meeting with the principal, Special Ed. director, Intervention Specialist, teacher, and mental health specialist. (Everyone's a "specialist" these days). The goal was (according to the principal) to make sure that everyone was on the same page about how to best serve Jack, and really, how to best dish out consequences and/or rewards for behavior. I didn't think we came to any real conclusions though, or decide to handle things any differently than we have been. The IS and the mental health specialist planned to meet with him later that morning to show him how many great days he's been having. There's a calendar chart with days left white (with zero incidents), marked yellow (for incidents such as disrespectful comments or yelling), or marked red (for physical aggression). There have only been 4 days with physical aggression this school year, which is miles less than where he was last year. Unfortunately, those four incidents have been much more explosive than the ones from 4th grade. The negative comments have really ramped up. Good news, though. This last week was ALL white. Go Jack!
Essentially they want to pump him up. Show him how many great days he is having. One thing which I see for myself to be true, is that Jack responds better (usually) when you talk in terms of what a great day he'll have, as opposed to how he'd better not screw it up. I mean what kid wouldn't? This is the difference between myself and my husband. He and I both want the same great day from our son, but how we cheer our kid on to do well is kinda just not the same. (Which often irritates the hell out of me. I wish he would realize that if his boss did this to him, he'd be in a bad mood all day. Not strive to do well). Anyhoo..
There was also some indecision in the meeting about where Jack should go when he gets an "emergency removal" from school. (He gets ten before we have to do a Manifest Determination review). He has only been suspended once this year (I think.. it's hard to remember at this point), but he does get pulled from his class for the rest of the day after a physical incident, and spends his time in the conference room doing school work. There was also talk about him being released before the rest of his class, however the principal pointed out that his class has no idea what happens to him after he leaves following an incident. They all believe he's gone home. She's more than willing to keep him there, which I really appreciate. Had this been the last principal, well gosh, Jack might have been expelled by now.
Guess we'll just see how it all goes. We need this behavior to drop dramatically by next Fall, when he gets to middle school. They won't put up with him the way the school does now. It's a whole new ball game. Teachers can press charges. I have to say.. that scares the hell out of me.
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