Splat Goes Life.

My son said those words to me last night. I said (to myself) "Huh?" Jack's school has a huge problem. It's a regular public school, with supposedly trained Intervention Specialists, but I have begun to question what exactly they're trained in. Talking a good game? Making an utter mess out of everything? Yesterday I had to pull him out of school. The principal officially referred to it as an "emergency removal", which the school staff concurred was "appropriate". (Why thank you). Thing is, I didn't ask permission. I didn't stick around to hear what my son did that was so awful. I didn't even stick around to question why my son was in the dark, sitting there with 3 adults, one of which I have never even met. (I know her name now, but have absolutely zero idea what her capacity is at the school, and why she was there "helping out"). Jack is in 3rd grade. We're half way through the year, making it about 4 years s...

I haven't told Jack that we're planning to transfer him to a new school in the Fall. The biggest reason for this is that every time he gets in trouble, or gets upset with a student or teacher, he will throw that up in their faces as a sort of "Screw you! I'm out of here!". He does it already, although he has a particular school already in mind- not the one he'll be attending. Earlier I got a phone call from the office letting me know that Jack was having a rough time. Usually this means they don't know how to handle him, and they mistakenly think that I can soothe him over, and then he'll be able to return to class. Sometimes (a lot of the time), I end up taking him home. The last two times, I have left him there. It gets to be ridiculous for them to call me in to do their job for them. They called me today because the gym teacher didn't put Jack in the same group as one of his "BFF's" (a boy he really likes), and he pretty much...

In life, we get thrown for a loop in a lot of ways. Maybe we didn't pass a test we studied hard for.. or we didn't make the football team.. didn't get that great job we not only wanted, but needed.. somebody broke our heart. Then we have kids, and while life still punches us in the gut on occasion, we now share those punches with our kids when it happens to them. It's almost as devastating. Our kids are a part of us. What makes them happy makes us happy. What makes them sad makes us sad. It is part of our nature to want to shield them from disappointment. On Wednesday afternoon, Jack informed me that he was going to stay after school the next day to try out for the drama club at school. I saw the flyer come home the week before, but pretty much dismissed it outright. Savannah tried out in the Fall and didn't get in- this was her second attempt, and I was kind of surprised she tried out, because she had previously decided not to do anything extracurricular asid...

I'm sitting here trying to collect all sorts of documents for Jack's redetermination visit with the psychologist tomorrow morning. This would include a current IEP, ETR (MFE), any psych evaluation and diagnosis, and why not throw in a Functional Behavior Assessment for good measure? As if that weren't "bothersome" enough, I have to fill out the first-time patient crap, telling them whatever the other documents will tell them in *much* more detail. I am absolutely dizzy going through papers to answer these questions. What kills me is that the County has all of this information, but what.. they can't be bothered to pass it along for me? They're the ones judging whether or not my son still has Autism, by their standards. Some people would think I would be happy for Jack to "graduate" from Autism, but with the behaviors manifesting the way they are, and the apparent need for medication (or some sort of behavior management and social skills train...

Every Friday, I pick up the kids and breathe a sigh of relief. The weekend is upon us, and I don't have to worry about what type of (bad) behavior Jack will be displaying in school the next few days. I don't have to stick by my phone like usual, because nobody on the school staff is going to call me. I don't have an after-school email from the teacher (or Intervention Specialist) to be anxious about, wondering what report they're going to have for me about how things went (good or bad). I don't have to feel embarrassed either dropping Jack off or picking him up, because of something he did the day before, or something he did that day that I have yet to find out about. Most parents can't wait for Monday to come, so their kids are in school instead of at home, driving everyone crazy.. and yes, I do feel that way to an extent.. but in this house, with Jack, the anxiety of not knowing how his day at school will go makes me a nervous wreck just about every single d...

Only one of my kids went to preschool. As you can guess, that would be Jack. He was in a special program through the county, offering Early Childhood Education. His classroom was run by 2 head teachers, and 2 assistants. The program allowed for peer models, which were typically developing kids of the same age. Savannah was not in the peer model program, although Jack's teachers did let her stay one day, which was absolutely great. (I hadn't had a morning all to myself in some time, so it was much appreciated!). In all honesty, I did not even think of enrolling Savannah in a preschool, because I worked from home when she was born, and didn't feel I needed to leave her elsewhere. She could go with me everywhere. (She's in the 98th and 99th percentile for both Math and Reading, respectively, in her grade, nationally , so I don't feel that I did her a huge disservice). Jack was in preschool for an additional year, starting Kindergarten at age 6. This wasn't pla...

Last year in second grade, Jack made himself a really nice friend named J. J is a very polite boy, and his parents seem to be understanding about Jack, so when there was first talk of "play dates", I was happy that finally Jack had someone who truly seemed to like him. J called many times over the school year to come over, sometimes without the knowledge of his mother. He never seemed to get upset when all Jack wanted to do was look at his (J's) Nintendo DS. They would sit side by side on the couch and play their DS games together. It was really great. Jack mentioned a few other friends he often played with at school, one of which he met up with frequently at the pool during summer vacation. I wasn't too sure about "B", though. He's sort of annoying, and always calls me "Jack's mom", as in "Hi, Jack's mom!". I think he's one of those kids who is odd in his own way, and looking for a good friend. (Things that ma...